It has been 2 weeks since our wedding and I am still extremely grateful for that. I never be this happier before to have someone so close to my heart, that his existence could light up the whole world. I cannot be prouder to say that he is my husband. He works tirelessly for me, he takes care of my well-beings and he can really feel what I feel.
Before the wedding, I often asked myself how it feels to be somebody’s wife. I wonder if there is anything changed in my life, like the way I treat him, the way I treat my parents, the way my parents treat me, and how society will react to mixed marriage we have. There are countless questions on how we suppose to grow in this young relationship.
Luckily, for some matters we defined our roles very clear since the beginning. Before the marriage, we made a pre-nuptial agreement as a proof that there will be no asset mixed between two of us. The responsibility of our future kids ‘ upbringing is also written and defined clearly on the paper. Both of us fully aware of our own responsibilities. My husband is very supportive to my career and he will support me as best as he can during this transition time.
But transition is always not easy. For the visa, school’s funding, and my future in Europe are still very uncertain. This is the sacrifice I need to take in order to be with my husband. I could’ve achieved so much better career with all facilities and connections I have here, but this is not what I want.
Couple weeks ago I tried to apply in Indonesian Endowment Fund program and I was so unlucky that the committee thought I should’ve change my university to one of those in Asia. I cannot tell them that my husband is a German, the only thing I could do was to take it or leave it option. So, I chose to let go this scholarship although that I really wanted it. I didn’t sign the contract that forced me to change university (Europe to Asia).
These are so many options that are there, but at the end we have to choose one. This is like choosing a husband. There are many options there, we could be single, get married to A, get married to B, or living coexist with someone, but we chose each other.
Getting married with someone I certain of helped me a lot to figure out opportunities and obstacles that are there, the step I need to take in my life, and picturing him in every decision I made. It is like growing exponentially together and it is very exciting!
Despite the excitement, we also plan to have kids in 2-3 years ahead. It means we still have more time to enjoy each other and travel the world. The destinations that are on the list are including: Nepal, Bora-Bora, Lombok, Jogjakarta, New York City, Greece, Other European islands and many more. Although that I’ve visited Jogjakarta many times before and he visited NYC already, it would be different this time. Now… we are a pack, and we will continue to do so. It is us against the world. A relationship that any government has to deal with!
We believe that we belong together and our love will conquer all. My advice to anyone who are still mingling on the market, enjoy yourself enough and when you can’t live with him anymore, go make a pack!
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